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hello, looking for a daddy dom and or kinky dates Kinks: impact play, sensory deprivation, daddy dom, cnc, orgasm control, mutual masturbation , bondage and ropes much more I can’t think off atm 420 friendly
Female (20) Durham, North Carolina
Goddess Domme Mistress - In Durham, NC Do you love feet, especially mines? DO NOT contact me if you can't handle no, no thank you or we are not a good fit. I am over supposed to be grown men throwing tantrums and calling me out my name when I decline. I have choices and preferences just like you do! What?s a FemDom to do???? I have this fantasy? I want a group of male subs! I want them all naked at my feet willing and wanting to please and impress me. I want to direct them to suck and fuck each other while I watch with a drink in my hand. I think I will call it game night. Now I just need a guest list. Let me know if you want to play.
Female (56) Durham, North Carolina
I have a rich daddy fetish. I’m lookin for an EATER!! ….&& make sure I have what I need so I can’t wait to see you soon! In need of spankings, guidance and grace. Tell me something daddy
Female (38) Durham, North Carolina
I am in a D/s relationship with my fiance, we are also Poly and swingers. He is my Daddy Dom. I am looking for a 2nd partner. I have a lot of love to give
Female (40) Durham, North Carolina
Who says Y/you cant be a good girl while being a girlboss? i guess ill find out the hard way if not. Im learning how to be self reliant in my everyday/day to day life and id love your kinky help with that. I want BDSM as part of my growth and self discovery journey to becoming independent. i see BDSM as a potential for stress/cathartic/traumatic relief/release and on some level a source of structure/stabilization. i am here to learn. i want to learn what being a pet means to me, what being a better pet means to me, how being a pet can help me; but mostly, i want to learn how discipline and punishment&reward systems can help me find structure, stability, and balance in my everyday life. i want to learn how to stand on my own two feet and get after what I want in life, take charge of myself and live how I want to live, be who I want to be, think how I want to think, feel how I want to feel. i am interested in learning about submission but im more interested in being my own person and being autonomous. I prefer to be able to actively choose when/if I give submission rather than giving it at all times. if you cant understand and respect that, please move on. if you can understand and know how to respect it, my inbox is open to receiving your message. thank you for your time. thank you for reading. I look forward to hearing from you! !!!!!!! Sometimes I dont reply for long periods of time. This can be for a lot different reasons, most of them personal and business related. If I haven't Passed and the chat is still open, I'll be back around when I have the capacity to talk again! ¡¡¡¡¡¡¡¡
Female (26) Durham, North Carolina
42 y/o female submissive - been heavy into the lifestyle for 3 years and am very experienced. Not looking for hookups, not looking for FWB. - Sapiosexual - Demisexual - INFP-T, 4w5 Just recently started getting into predator/prey, Hunter/stalker Here are more of my interests: Exchange (D/s) • Impact Play • Masochism (Submissive) • Bottom (Submissive) • Edge Play (Breath Play, CNC, *** Play, *** Play, knife play, etc.) • Bondage and Restraints (Rope, Bondage Cuffs, Tape, Handcuffs, Collars, Predicament, etc.) • Toy and Equipment Utilization (Spreader Bars, St. Andrew’s Cross, Whips/Floggers/Paddles/Crops)
Female (42) Durham, North Carolina
I've been out of the lifestyle for a while and wanting to get back. I've recently moved to NC from TX. I love nature, cooking, most movies, & kareoke.
Female (35) Durham, North Carolina
looking for a dominant man who is willing to be patient in my exploring of the kink world. looking for a deep and meaningful dynamic that goes beyond the kink, if that’s not you then keep it moving xoxo
Female (27) Durham, North Carolina
would love to be your little pet for the night, an entertainment prop for your group of friends or the perfect caged centerpiece for your swinger party
Female (29) Durham, North Carolina
looking for events to attend!! I am Eros, Philia, Ludus, Pragma, Philautia I desire Oxytocin, Dopamine, Endorphins, Serotonin 🥂 to cliches & a dark past for the cishet men reading: clothed, plugged, caged, gagged, unfinished, ignored, and silent is the only option for you. 😏
Female (37) Durham, North Carolina
Seeking a dedicated, obedience-focused submissive for a couple-led dynamic (possible live-in) About us Married, stable, and experienced in consensual power exchange. We value trust, clarity, and follow-through. We’re down-to-earth, have a dry sense of humor, and are professional, direct, and attentive. We’re not interested in brat dynamics. If obedience isn’t your thing, we’re not a match. About him Warm, grounded, and straightforward. He says what he means and follows through. Prioritizes structure, aftercare, and clear communication. He’s been in the lifestyle for years with 20+ years as a Dominant and mentor. About me Nurse for 14+ years; grounded, caring, and calm under pressure. Homebody at heart who loves festivals in small doses, bowling, beach days, movies, restaurants, and wineries. Also into writing and ***ting. Bisexual; with women I’m affectionate and tactile—softness, kissing, cuddling. I tend to be more giving, and appreciate reciprocity. Kink: definite masochist. Impact and wax are favorites for the release and the pretty marks. Also into restraints, light electro, blindfolds, and clamps. Curious switchiness with women; I’m learning to top under his mentorship. In the lifestyle since 18. What started as kink curiosity has grown into a deeper, mental/structure-focused submission. With my current Dom, I’m in the most aligned dynamic I’ve had. What we’re looking for A true submissive who shows consistency, effort, and respect for protocol. Open to a couple-led dynamic; chemistry and compatibility come first. Live-in is a possibility if everything aligns over time. You know what you want, you communicate it, and you follow house rules once agreed. Our approach and experience Consent, safety, and aftercare are non-negotiable. Safewords honored, boundaries respected. Skilled in training/mentorship, structure, and building sustainable dynamics. We enjoy D/s with elements of bondage, impact, sensation, and role play—negotiated and tailored to the partner. Boundaries and limits No face striking. No bodily fluids. Full stop. Everything is pre-negotiated with safewords and shared limits. Our limits will align with yours; we don’t “push” past negotiated boundaries. Communication If we reach out, a brief reply (even if it’s a “no, thank you”) is appreciated. We’re here with intention—clear communication and punctuality go a long way.
Female (37) Durham, North Carolina
I like reading, mostly dark romance I’m a very independent women, I don’t like wasting my time I like interesting people
Female (20) Durham, North Carolina
I’m a big white lady, 54 who is looking for her dominant man. I’m looking for long term not a hook up. I also don’t play til I build trust with someone. if you are not serious about building a relationship/friendship I’m not for you. I don’t do hookups. I’m not going to submit to anyone who doesn’t want to build some trust, I’m sorry that’s a hard pass. I’m single, no kids. I like spanking, flogging, bondage. I also like daddy play as well as primal play or rough sex. I would like to try “free use” days or weekends with someone I trust. I’m not a 24/7 submissive. I’m way too independent for that, maybe a designated amount of time or a modified version. There is so more I’d like to experience and learn in the kink world, just asked me about it. I would like to try Domme or mistress role I maybe flirting with diving into the switchyness. I would like to try. That may not stick. If inquiring minds want to know, my bra cup size it’s K, it doesn’t go high enough on the toggle to put it there.
Female (55) Durham, North Carolina
🥰Hey there, lovely souls! I’m diving back into this thrilling BDSM world and ready to connect with fellow kinksters who appreciate a little spice in their lives. *** I’m no stranger to the scene, having immersed myself as a playful sub and a true brat 🤪, but now I’m excited to explore my newly embraced dominant side. 💫 But hen the moment calls for it, I can seamlessly transition from taking charge—making you submit on your knees—to embracing my softer side as a “good girl” for Daddy. 😏 As a confident BBW, I’m all about celebrating 🎉 my curves and owning my sensuality! With the guidance of some incredible Dom mentors, I’ve discovered that my dominant style aligns beautifully with the nurturing energy of a Mommy Dom 🧑‍🧒🥰 style—a sweet blend of nurturing and playful dominance that brings out the best in my partners. If you’re ready for a connection filled with fun, laughter, and a sprinkle of mischief, let’s chat! Whether you’re looking for playful banter or something deeper, I’m here to create magic in the moment. 💖✨ 🗒️: I'm very interested in connecting with couples in the BDSM community who have an open relationship or marriage. I'm looking for friendships and learning experiences. I'm also open to meeting anyone who can help me explore experiences outside of conventional norms. currently looking for long term relationship - to build on
Female (37) Durham, North Carolina
sugar daddies welcomed 😍 $KapitolPhoe , I’m really chill , love to cook , I play a lil video games , like to travel , also do tattoos ! but can’t find anybody to match my sex drive or pleasures😈😫💦
Female (27) Durham, North Carolina
I don’t need to raise my voice to be in control. you’ll feel it the moment we speak. I’m a natural Dominant who values obedience, devotion, and consistent effort. If you want to serve, you’ll earn that privilege. Don’t approach me with copy-paste messages or kink lists — I’m not here to fulfill fantasies you haven’t worked for. I reward good behavior. I correct what needs fixing. If you know your place and crave structure, control, and purpose, you might be in the right hands. Interests: obedience training, service-oriented submission, rituals, punishment & reward, mental domination. Be honest, be intentional, and above all be ready to submit fully.
Female (26) Durham, North Carolina
Hi! I'm new and a bit shy about all this still! I'm mostly looking for friends and to learn the ropes ;). If anyone has any event or reading suggestions, I'd love to hear them! Thank you all for making this such a great app / community!
Female (26) Durham, North Carolina
New to all this. Single again after 20 mostly unsatisfying years. I think I am naturally submissive but haven’t had anyone who knew what to do with that. My ex would try sometimes but it just made me laugh. would love someone with real masculine energy lol. I read a lot and realize there is a whole world out there that I’ve been missing.
Female (45) Durham, North Carolina
Looking for kinky dates to explore things I’ve never been comfortable asking for before. I love CNC role play, gentle nipple play and nipple orgasms, and creaming all over the place. DMs open here to locals only but you can also watch/message me on OF @LolaBunny24.7 (open access)
Female (38) Durham, North Carolina

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I have a rich daddy fetish. I’m lookin for an EATER!! ….&& make sure I have what I need so I can’t wait to see you soon! In need of spankings, guidance and grace. Tell me something daddy
Female (38) Durham, North Carolina
hello, looking for a daddy dom and or kinky dates Kinks: impact play, sensory deprivation, daddy dom, cnc, orgasm control, mutual masturbation , bondage and ropes much more I can’t think off atm 420 friendly
Female (20) Durham, North Carolina
I am in a D/s relationship with my fiance, we are also Poly and swingers. He is my Daddy Dom. I am looking for a 2nd partner. I have a lot of love to give
Female (40) Durham, North Carolina
Goddess Domme Mistress - In Durham, NC Do you love feet, especially mines? DO NOT contact me if you can't handle no, no thank you or we are not a good fit. I am over supposed to be grown men throwing tantrums and calling me out my name when I decline. I have choices and preferences just like you do! What?s a FemDom to do???? I have this fantasy? I want a group of male subs! I want them all naked at my feet willing and wanting to please and impress me. I want to direct them to suck and fuck each other while I watch with a drink in my hand. I think I will call it game night. Now I just need a guest list. Let me know if you want to play.
Female (56) Durham, North Carolina
Who says Y/you cant be a good girl while being a girlboss? i guess ill find out the hard way if not. Im learning how to be self reliant in my everyday/day to day life and id love your kinky help with that. I want BDSM as part of my growth and self discovery journey to becoming independent. i see BDSM as a potential for stress/cathartic/traumatic relief/release and on some level a source of structure/stabilization. i am here to learn. i want to learn what being a pet means to me, what being a better pet means to me, how being a pet can help me; but mostly, i want to learn how discipline and punishment&reward systems can help me find structure, stability, and balance in my everyday life. i want to learn how to stand on my own two feet and get after what I want in life, take charge of myself and live how I want to live, be who I want to be, think how I want to think, feel how I want to feel. i am interested in learning about submission but im more interested in being my own person and being autonomous. I prefer to be able to actively choose when/if I give submission rather than giving it at all times. if you cant understand and respect that, please move on. if you can understand and know how to respect it, my inbox is open to receiving your message. thank you for your time. thank you for reading. I look forward to hearing from you! !!!!!!! Sometimes I dont reply for long periods of time. This can be for a lot different reasons, most of them personal and business related. If I haven't Passed and the chat is still open, I'll be back around when I have the capacity to talk again! ¡¡¡¡¡¡¡¡
Female (26) Durham, North Carolina
New to all this. Single again after 20 mostly unsatisfying years. I think I am naturally submissive but haven’t had anyone who knew what to do with that. My ex would try sometimes but it just made me laugh. would love someone with real masculine energy lol. I read a lot and realize there is a whole world out there that I’ve been missing.
Female (45) Durham, North Carolina
42 y/o female submissive - been heavy into the lifestyle for 3 years and am very experienced. Not looking for hookups, not looking for FWB. - Sapiosexual - Demisexual - INFP-T, 4w5 Just recently started getting into predator/prey, Hunter/stalker Here are more of my interests: Exchange (D/s) • Impact Play • Masochism (Submissive) • Bottom (Submissive) • Edge Play (Breath Play, CNC, *** Play, *** Play, knife play, etc.) • Bondage and Restraints (Rope, Bondage Cuffs, Tape, Handcuffs, Collars, Predicament, etc.) • Toy and Equipment Utilization (Spreader Bars, St. Andrew’s Cross, Whips/Floggers/Paddles/Crops)
Female (42) Durham, North Carolina
looking for events to attend!! I am Eros, Philia, Ludus, Pragma, Philautia I desire Oxytocin, Dopamine, Endorphins, Serotonin 🥂 to cliches & a dark past for the cishet men reading: clothed, plugged, caged, gagged, unfinished, ignored, and silent is the only option for you. 😏
Female (37) Durham, North Carolina
I like reading, mostly dark romance I’m a very independent women, I don’t like wasting my time I like interesting people
Female (20) Durham, North Carolina
I've been out of the lifestyle for a while and wanting to get back. I've recently moved to NC from TX. I love nature, cooking, most movies, & kareoke.
Female (35) Durham, North Carolina
looking for a dominant man who is willing to be patient in my exploring of the kink world. looking for a deep and meaningful dynamic that goes beyond the kink, if that’s not you then keep it moving xoxo
Female (27) Durham, North Carolina
I don’t need to raise my voice to be in control. you’ll feel it the moment we speak. I’m a natural Dominant who values obedience, devotion, and consistent effort. If you want to serve, you’ll earn that privilege. Don’t approach me with copy-paste messages or kink lists — I’m not here to fulfill fantasies you haven’t worked for. I reward good behavior. I correct what needs fixing. If you know your place and crave structure, control, and purpose, you might be in the right hands. Interests: obedience training, service-oriented submission, rituals, punishment & reward, mental domination. Be honest, be intentional, and above all be ready to submit fully.
Female (26) Durham, North Carolina
sugar daddies welcomed 😍 $KapitolPhoe , I’m really chill , love to cook , I play a lil video games , like to travel , also do tattoos ! but can’t find anybody to match my sex drive or pleasures😈😫💦
Female (27) Durham, North Carolina
🥰Hey there, lovely souls! I’m diving back into this thrilling BDSM world and ready to connect with fellow kinksters who appreciate a little spice in their lives. *** I’m no stranger to the scene, having immersed myself as a playful sub and a true brat 🤪, but now I’m excited to explore my newly embraced dominant side. 💫 But hen the moment calls for it, I can seamlessly transition from taking charge—making you submit on your knees—to embracing my softer side as a “good girl” for Daddy. 😏 As a confident BBW, I’m all about celebrating 🎉 my curves and owning my sensuality! With the guidance of some incredible Dom mentors, I’ve discovered that my dominant style aligns beautifully with the nurturing energy of a Mommy Dom 🧑‍🧒🥰 style—a sweet blend of nurturing and playful dominance that brings out the best in my partners. If you’re ready for a connection filled with fun, laughter, and a sprinkle of mischief, let’s chat! Whether you’re looking for playful banter or something deeper, I’m here to create magic in the moment. 💖✨ 🗒️: I'm very interested in connecting with couples in the BDSM community who have an open relationship or marriage. I'm looking for friendships and learning experiences. I'm also open to meeting anyone who can help me explore experiences outside of conventional norms. currently looking for long term relationship - to build on
Female (37) Durham, North Carolina
would love to be your little pet for the night, an entertainment prop for your group of friends or the perfect caged centerpiece for your swinger party
Female (29) Durham, North Carolina
I’m a big white lady, 54 who is looking for her dominant man. I’m looking for long term not a hook up. I also don’t play til I build trust with someone. if you are not serious about building a relationship/friendship I’m not for you. I don’t do hookups. I’m not going to submit to anyone who doesn’t want to build some trust, I’m sorry that’s a hard pass. I’m single, no kids. I like spanking, flogging, bondage. I also like daddy play as well as primal play or rough sex. I would like to try “free use” days or weekends with someone I trust. I’m not a 24/7 submissive. I’m way too independent for that, maybe a designated amount of time or a modified version. There is so more I’d like to experience and learn in the kink world, just asked me about it. I would like to try Domme or mistress role I maybe flirting with diving into the switchyness. I would like to try. That may not stick. If inquiring minds want to know, my bra cup size it’s K, it doesn’t go high enough on the toggle to put it there.
Female (55) Durham, North Carolina
Looking for kinky dates to explore things I’ve never been comfortable asking for before. I love CNC role play, gentle nipple play and nipple orgasms, and creaming all over the place. DMs open here to locals only but you can also watch/message me on OF @LolaBunny24.7 (open access)
Female (38) Durham, North Carolina
Hi! I'm new and a bit shy about all this still! I'm mostly looking for friends and to learn the ropes ;). If anyone has any event or reading suggestions, I'd love to hear them! Thank you all for making this such a great app / community!
Female (26) Durham, North Carolina
Seeking a dedicated, obedience-focused submissive for a couple-led dynamic (possible live-in) About us Married, stable, and experienced in consensual power exchange. We value trust, clarity, and follow-through. We’re down-to-earth, have a dry sense of humor, and are professional, direct, and attentive. We’re not interested in brat dynamics. If obedience isn’t your thing, we’re not a match. About him Warm, grounded, and straightforward. He says what he means and follows through. Prioritizes structure, aftercare, and clear communication. He’s been in the lifestyle for years with 20+ years as a Dominant and mentor. About me Nurse for 14+ years; grounded, caring, and calm under pressure. Homebody at heart who loves festivals in small doses, bowling, beach days, movies, restaurants, and wineries. Also into writing and ***ting. Bisexual; with women I’m affectionate and tactile—softness, kissing, cuddling. I tend to be more giving, and appreciate reciprocity. Kink: definite masochist. Impact and wax are favorites for the release and the pretty marks. Also into restraints, light electro, blindfolds, and clamps. Curious switchiness with women; I’m learning to top under his mentorship. In the lifestyle since 18. What started as kink curiosity has grown into a deeper, mental/structure-focused submission. With my current Dom, I’m in the most aligned dynamic I’ve had. What we’re looking for A true submissive who shows consistency, effort, and respect for protocol. Open to a couple-led dynamic; chemistry and compatibility come first. Live-in is a possibility if everything aligns over time. You know what you want, you communicate it, and you follow house rules once agreed. Our approach and experience Consent, safety, and aftercare are non-negotiable. Safewords honored, boundaries respected. Skilled in training/mentorship, structure, and building sustainable dynamics. We enjoy D/s with elements of bondage, impact, sensation, and role play—negotiated and tailored to the partner. Boundaries and limits No face striking. No bodily fluids. Full stop. Everything is pre-negotiated with safewords and shared limits. Our limits will align with yours; we don’t “push” past negotiated boundaries. Communication If we reach out, a brief reply (even if it’s a “no, thank you”) is appreciated. We’re here with intention—clear communication and punctuality go a long way.
Female (37) Durham, North Carolina

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