Kinky women in Durham

Goddess Domme Mistress - In Durham, NC Do you love feet, especially mines? DO NOT contact me if you can't handle no, no thank you or we are not a good fit. I am over supposed to be grown men throwing tantrums and calling me out my name when I decline. I have choices and preferences just like you do! What?s a FemDom to do???? I have this fantasy? I want a group of male subs! I want them all naked at my feet willing and wanting to please and impress me. I want to direct them to suck and fuck each other while I watch with a drink in my hand. I think I will call it game night. Now I just need a guest list. Let me know if you want to play.

I have a rich daddy fetish. I’m lookin for an EATER!! ….&& make sure I have what I need so I can’t wait to see you soon! In need of spankings, guidance and grace. Tell me something daddy

I am in a D/s relationship with my fiance, we are also Poly and swingers. He is my Daddy Dom. I am looking for a 2nd partner. I have a lot of love to give

hirsute full figured queer latina looking for in-person d/s relationship. tested (std/i & covid), sub leaning switch, locals only, must be able to host. **just looking for friends at the moment! not many kinky friends & would love to make more! interested in yapping?¿ inquire within 🖤**

42 y/o female submissive - been heavy into the lifestyle for 3 years and am very experienced. Not looking for hookups, not looking for FWB. - Sapiosexual - Demisexual - INFP-T, 4w5 Just recently started getting into predator/prey, Hunter/stalker Here are more of my interests: Exchange (D/s) • Impact Play • Masochism (Submissive) • Bottom (Submissive) • Edge Play (Breath Play, CNC, *** Play, *** Play, knife play, etc.) • Bondage and Restraints (Rope, Bondage Cuffs, Tape, Handcuffs, Collars, Predicament, etc.) • Toy and Equipment Utilization (Spreader Bars, St. Andrew’s Cross, Whips/Floggers/Paddles/Crops)

looking for events to attend!! I am Eros, Philia, Ludus, Pragma, Philautia I desire Oxytocin, Dopamine, Endorphins, Serotonin 🥂 to cliches & a dark past for the cishet men reading: clothed, plugged, caged, gagged, unfinished, ignored, and silent is the only option for you. 😏

looking for a dominant man who is willing to be patient in my exploring of the kink world. looking for a deep and meaningful dynamic that goes beyond the kink, if that’s not you then keep it moving xoxo

I've been out of the lifestyle for a while and wanting to get back. I've recently moved to NC from TX. I love nature, cooking, most movies, & kareoke.

I like reading, mostly dark romance I’m a very independent women, I don’t like wasting my time I like interesting people

🥰Hey there, lovely souls! I’m diving back into this thrilling BDSM world and ready to connect with fellow kinksters who appreciate a little spice in their lives. *** I’m no stranger to the scene, having immersed myself as a playful sub and a true brat 🤪, but now I’m excited to explore my newly embraced dominant side. 💫 But hen the moment calls for it, I can seamlessly transition from taking charge—making you submit on your knees—to embracing my softer side as a “good girl” for Daddy. 😏 As a confident BBW, I’m all about celebrating 🎉 my curves and owning my sensuality! With the guidance of some incredible Dom mentors, I’ve discovered that my dominant style aligns beautifully with the nurturing energy of a Mommy Dom 🧑‍🧒🥰 style—a sweet blend of nurturing and playful dominance that brings out the best in my partners. If you’re ready for a connection filled with fun, laughter, and a sprinkle of mischief, let’s chat! Whether you’re looking for playful banter or something deeper, I’m here to create magic in the moment. 💖✨ 🗒️: I'm very interested in connecting with couples in the BDSM community who have an open relationship or marriage. I'm looking for friendships and learning experiences. I'm also open to meeting anyone who can help me explore experiences outside of conventional norms. currently looking for long term relationship - to build on

would love to be your little pet for the night, an entertainment prop for your group of friends or the perfect caged centerpiece for your swinger party

I’m a big white lady, 54 who is looking for her dominant man. I’m looking for long term not a hook up. I also don’t play til I build trust with someone. if you are not serious about building a relationship/friendship I’m not for you. I don’t do hookups. I’m not going to submit to anyone who doesn’t want to build some trust, I’m sorry that’s a hard pass. I’m single, no kids. I like spanking, flogging, bondage. I also like daddy play as well as primal play or rough sex. I would like to try “free use” days or weekends with someone I trust. I’m not a 24/7 submissive. I’m way too independent for that, maybe a designated amount of time or a modified version. There is so more I’d like to experience and learn in the kink world, just asked me about it. I would like to try Domme or mistress role I maybe flirting with diving into the switchyness. I would like to try. That may not stick. If inquiring minds want to know, my bra cup size it’s K, it doesn’t go high enough on the toggle to put it there.

Seeking a dedicated, obedience-focused submissive for a couple-led dynamic (possible live-in) About us Married, stable, and experienced in consensual power exchange. We value trust, clarity, and follow-through. We’re down-to-earth, have a dry sense of humor, and are professional, direct, and attentive. We’re not interested in brat dynamics. If obedience isn’t your thing, we’re not a match. About him Warm, grounded, and straightforward. He says what he means and follows through. Prioritizes structure, aftercare, and clear communication. He’s been in the lifestyle for years with 20+ years as a Dominant and mentor. About me Nurse for 14+ years; grounded, caring, and calm under pressure. Homebody at heart who loves festivals in small doses, bowling, beach days, movies, restaurants, and wineries. Also into writing and ***ting. Bisexual; with women I’m affectionate and tactile—softness, kissing, cuddling. I tend to be more giving, and appreciate reciprocity. Kink: definite masochist. Impact and wax are favorites for the release and the pretty marks. Also into restraints, light electro, blindfolds, and clamps. Curious switchiness with women; I’m learning to top under his mentorship. In the lifestyle since 18. What started as kink curiosity has grown into a deeper, mental/structure-focused submission. With my current Dom, I’m in the most aligned dynamic I’ve had. What we’re looking for A true submissive who shows consistency, effort, and respect for protocol. Open to a couple-led dynamic; chemistry and compatibility come first. Live-in is a possibility if everything aligns over time. You know what you want, you communicate it, and you follow house rules once agreed. Our approach and experience Consent, safety, and aftercare are non-negotiable. Safewords honored, boundaries respected. Skilled in training/mentorship, structure, and building sustainable dynamics. We enjoy D/s with elements of bondage, impact, sensation, and role play—negotiated and tailored to the partner. Boundaries and limits No face striking. No bodily fluids. Full stop. Everything is pre-negotiated with safewords and shared limits. Our limits will align with yours; we don’t “push” past negotiated boundaries. Communication If we reach out, a brief reply (even if it’s a “no, thank you”) is appreciated. We’re here with intention—clear communication and punctuality go a long way.

About me(im poly) -I do not date men 1-1 only woman 1-1 and I’m picky af with couples woman can DM and if you a couple I still prefer to talk to her more then him if u make excuses to why I can’t talk to her u will just get blocked Hi my name is Cera I’m 29 im 5’9 125lbs im German/Congo and adopted. I have 6 dogs I don’t do long distance because I cannot afford to travel in this season of life. I have autism and adhd and bpd. (This impacts my everyday life in how I communicate and act so be mindful) I am demisexual and sapiosexual and bisexual. I am a bottom not a top. I’m looking for a dominate female mainly. My type is usually lighter then me I don’t do darker then me just my preference and I date ages 30-50 and I like fit and a bit curvy I know exactly what I want and I don’t entertain anything else. I’m big on emotional intelligence and affection if u lack in this then you are not for me. I’m wanting to explore the kink world and taboo roleplay world more. I do not do boring vanilla sex. I’m not a hook up person and I don’t like quick sex I like long sessions and cuddling and after care if u lack in this don’t msg me! If you are uncomfortable with dirty talk and playful banter I’m not for you. If you are shy I’m not for you if you are discreet I’m not for u and if you have kids and they take up to much of ur schedule I’m not for you I’m not a back burner person or you only speak to me for sex I’m not interested in being talked to only when it’s convenient for you. If you are a couple let me make this clear if he talks to me more then she does I will lose feelings fast! I’m mainly looking for a GF and if he communicates more with me then she does it won’t work for me. I’m not here to fix anyone’s marriage or be extra p*say for him cause u r tired or to busy to have sex with ur man (funny how I’ve experienced this so much) I don’t date men 1-1 anyway i actually date women more. I want a woman who wants a gf and want her to have some experience being dominate and wearing a strap is a must for me. If you’re a couple and ur man is smaller then 7” please don’t msg me 🙂! I’ve been in the lifestyle 10 yrs been with 10 couples and have dated 7 women as well longest relationship 4&1/2 yrs reason why it ended they moved. I’m someone that looks for depth and consistency and for someone that makes plans I lead in my life all the time so I’m not looking for that in the dynamic I want which is a confident woman and someone that can respect boundaries has patience to have correcting conversations and can communicate there wants and needs. I’m looking for an extrovert as I’m an introvert that struggles with social activities. I am 420 friendly and I vape. Been in therapy so I can be my best authentic self and will not shrink for no one. I’m very transparent and blunt! Lots may want me but not many are for me and that’s ok. But im big depth and emotional intelligence. I have been through a lot of trauma in my life my discernment is really really good. I can read people well and know if something is worth my time and what isn’t and communicate that because everyone’s time is valuable and shouldn’t be wasted! If you can’t treat me like a person and ur only talking to me for sex and then once u get it ghost me grow up be better cause that’s not how decent people act!

This is a completely different of me respectfully. What I write here is not what you will see. If you spoke to me you wouldn't assume I'm dominant and I get a thrill out of that.

Hi! I'm new and a bit shy about all this still! I'm mostly looking for friends and to learn the ropes ;). If anyone has any event or reading suggestions, I'd love to hear them! Thank you all for making this such a great app / community!

I am a 52 yr old biracial female. I am here to give and receive. I take great pleasure in giving my partner,partners an outer body experience. I am whoever you want me to be.

I don’t need to raise my voice to be in control. you’ll feel it the moment we speak. I’m a natural Dominant who values obedience, devotion, and consistent effort. If you want to serve, you’ll earn that privilege. Don’t approach me with copy-paste messages or kink lists — I’m not here to fulfill fantasies you haven’t worked for. I reward good behavior. I correct what needs fixing. If you know your place and crave structure, control, and purpose, you might be in the right hands. Interests: obedience training, service-oriented submission, rituals, punishment & reward, mental domination. Be honest, be intentional, and above all be ready to submit fully.

Looking for kinky dates to explore things I’ve never been comfortable asking for before. I love CNC role play, gentle nipple play and nipple orgasms, and creaming all over the place. DMs open here to locals only but you can also watch/message me on OF @Lola***24.7 (open access)

I have a rich daddy fetish. I’m lookin for an EATER!! ….&& make sure I have what I need so I can’t wait to see you soon! In need of spankings, guidance and grace. Tell me something daddy

I am in a D/s relationship with my fiance, we are also Poly and swingers. He is my Daddy Dom. I am looking for a 2nd partner. I have a lot of love to give

Goddess Domme Mistress - In Durham, NC Do you love feet, especially mines? DO NOT contact me if you can't handle no, no thank you or we are not a good fit. I am over supposed to be grown men throwing tantrums and calling me out my name when I decline. I have choices and preferences just like you do! What?s a FemDom to do???? I have this fantasy? I want a group of male subs! I want them all naked at my feet willing and wanting to please and impress me. I want to direct them to suck and fuck each other while I watch with a drink in my hand. I think I will call it game night. Now I just need a guest list. Let me know if you want to play.

42 y/o female submissive - been heavy into the lifestyle for 3 years and am very experienced. Not looking for hookups, not looking for FWB. - Sapiosexual - Demisexual - INFP-T, 4w5 Just recently started getting into predator/prey, Hunter/stalker Here are more of my interests: Exchange (D/s) • Impact Play • Masochism (Submissive) • Bottom (Submissive) • Edge Play (Breath Play, CNC, *** Play, *** Play, knife play, etc.) • Bondage and Restraints (Rope, Bondage Cuffs, Tape, Handcuffs, Collars, Predicament, etc.) • Toy and Equipment Utilization (Spreader Bars, St. Andrew’s Cross, Whips/Floggers/Paddles/Crops)

looking for events to attend!! I am Eros, Philia, Ludus, Pragma, Philautia I desire Oxytocin, Dopamine, Endorphins, Serotonin 🥂 to cliches & a dark past for the cishet men reading: clothed, plugged, caged, gagged, unfinished, ignored, and silent is the only option for you. 😏

I like reading, mostly dark romance I’m a very independent women, I don’t like wasting my time I like interesting people

I've been out of the lifestyle for a while and wanting to get back. I've recently moved to NC from TX. I love nature, cooking, most movies, & kareoke.

looking for a dominant man who is willing to be patient in my exploring of the kink world. looking for a deep and meaningful dynamic that goes beyond the kink, if that’s not you then keep it moving xoxo

I don’t need to raise my voice to be in control. you’ll feel it the moment we speak. I’m a natural Dominant who values obedience, devotion, and consistent effort. If you want to serve, you’ll earn that privilege. Don’t approach me with copy-paste messages or kink lists — I’m not here to fulfill fantasies you haven’t worked for. I reward good behavior. I correct what needs fixing. If you know your place and crave structure, control, and purpose, you might be in the right hands. Interests: obedience training, service-oriented submission, rituals, punishment & reward, mental domination. Be honest, be intentional, and above all be ready to submit fully.

About me(im poly) -I do not date men 1-1 only woman 1-1 and I’m picky af with couples woman can DM and if you a couple I still prefer to talk to her more then him if u make excuses to why I can’t talk to her u will just get blocked Hi my name is Cera I’m 29 im 5’9 125lbs im German/Congo and adopted. I have 6 dogs I don’t do long distance because I cannot afford to travel in this season of life. I have autism and adhd and bpd. (This impacts my everyday life in how I communicate and act so be mindful) I am demisexual and sapiosexual and bisexual. I am a bottom not a top. I’m looking for a dominate female mainly. My type is usually lighter then me I don’t do darker then me just my preference and I date ages 30-50 and I like fit and a bit curvy I know exactly what I want and I don’t entertain anything else. I’m big on emotional intelligence and affection if u lack in this then you are not for me. I’m wanting to explore the kink world and taboo roleplay world more. I do not do boring vanilla sex. I’m not a hook up person and I don’t like quick sex I like long sessions and cuddling and after care if u lack in this don’t msg me! If you are uncomfortable with dirty talk and playful banter I’m not for you. If you are shy I’m not for you if you are discreet I’m not for u and if you have kids and they take up to much of ur schedule I’m not for you I’m not a back burner person or you only speak to me for sex I’m not interested in being talked to only when it’s convenient for you. If you are a couple let me make this clear if he talks to me more then she does I will lose feelings fast! I’m mainly looking for a GF and if he communicates more with me then she does it won’t work for me. I’m not here to fix anyone’s marriage or be extra p*say for him cause u r tired or to busy to have sex with ur man (funny how I’ve experienced this so much) I don’t date men 1-1 anyway i actually date women more. I want a woman who wants a gf and want her to have some experience being dominate and wearing a strap is a must for me. If you’re a couple and ur man is smaller then 7” please don’t msg me 🙂! I’ve been in the lifestyle 10 yrs been with 10 couples and have dated 7 women as well longest relationship 4&1/2 yrs reason why it ended they moved. I’m someone that looks for depth and consistency and for someone that makes plans I lead in my life all the time so I’m not looking for that in the dynamic I want which is a confident woman and someone that can respect boundaries has patience to have correcting conversations and can communicate there wants and needs. I’m looking for an extrovert as I’m an introvert that struggles with social activities. I am 420 friendly and I vape. Been in therapy so I can be my best authentic self and will not shrink for no one. I’m very transparent and blunt! Lots may want me but not many are for me and that’s ok. But im big depth and emotional intelligence. I have been through a lot of trauma in my life my discernment is really really good. I can read people well and know if something is worth my time and what isn’t and communicate that because everyone’s time is valuable and shouldn’t be wasted! If you can’t treat me like a person and ur only talking to me for sex and then once u get it ghost me grow up be better cause that’s not how decent people act!

I am a 52 yr old biracial female. I am here to give and receive. I take great pleasure in giving my partner,partners an outer body experience. I am whoever you want me to be.

This is a completely different of me respectfully. What I write here is not what you will see. If you spoke to me you wouldn't assume I'm dominant and I get a thrill out of that.

🥰Hey there, lovely souls! I’m diving back into this thrilling BDSM world and ready to connect with fellow kinksters who appreciate a little spice in their lives. *** I’m no stranger to the scene, having immersed myself as a playful sub and a true brat 🤪, but now I’m excited to explore my newly embraced dominant side. 💫 But hen the moment calls for it, I can seamlessly transition from taking charge—making you submit on your knees—to embracing my softer side as a “good girl” for Daddy. 😏 As a confident BBW, I’m all about celebrating 🎉 my curves and owning my sensuality! With the guidance of some incredible Dom mentors, I’ve discovered that my dominant style aligns beautifully with the nurturing energy of a Mommy Dom 🧑‍🧒🥰 style—a sweet blend of nurturing and playful dominance that brings out the best in my partners. If you’re ready for a connection filled with fun, laughter, and a sprinkle of mischief, let’s chat! Whether you’re looking for playful banter or something deeper, I’m here to create magic in the moment. 💖✨ 🗒️: I'm very interested in connecting with couples in the BDSM community who have an open relationship or marriage. I'm looking for friendships and learning experiences. I'm also open to meeting anyone who can help me explore experiences outside of conventional norms. currently looking for long term relationship - to build on

hirsute full figured queer latina looking for in-person d/s relationship. tested (std/i & covid), sub leaning switch, locals only, must be able to host. **just looking for friends at the moment! not many kinky friends & would love to make more! interested in yapping?¿ inquire within 🖤**

would love to be your little pet for the night, an entertainment prop for your group of friends or the perfect caged centerpiece for your swinger party

I’m a big white lady, 54 who is looking for her dominant man. I’m looking for long term not a hook up. I also don’t play til I build trust with someone. if you are not serious about building a relationship/friendship I’m not for you. I don’t do hookups. I’m not going to submit to anyone who doesn’t want to build some trust, I’m sorry that’s a hard pass. I’m single, no kids. I like spanking, flogging, bondage. I also like daddy play as well as primal play or rough sex. I would like to try “free use” days or weekends with someone I trust. I’m not a 24/7 submissive. I’m way too independent for that, maybe a designated amount of time or a modified version. There is so more I’d like to experience and learn in the kink world, just asked me about it. I would like to try Domme or mistress role I maybe flirting with diving into the switchyness. I would like to try. That may not stick. If inquiring minds want to know, my bra cup size it’s K, it doesn’t go high enough on the toggle to put it there.

Looking for kinky dates to explore things I’ve never been comfortable asking for before. I love CNC role play, gentle nipple play and nipple orgasms, and creaming all over the place. DMs open here to locals only but you can also watch/message me on OF @Lola***24.7 (open access)

Hi! I'm new and a bit shy about all this still! I'm mostly looking for friends and to learn the ropes ;). If anyone has any event or reading suggestions, I'd love to hear them! Thank you all for making this such a great app / community!

Seeking a dedicated, obedience-focused submissive for a couple-led dynamic (possible live-in) About us Married, stable, and experienced in consensual power exchange. We value trust, clarity, and follow-through. We’re down-to-earth, have a dry sense of humor, and are professional, direct, and attentive. We’re not interested in brat dynamics. If obedience isn’t your thing, we’re not a match. About him Warm, grounded, and straightforward. He says what he means and follows through. Prioritizes structure, aftercare, and clear communication. He’s been in the lifestyle for years with 20+ years as a Dominant and mentor. About me Nurse for 14+ years; grounded, caring, and calm under pressure. Homebody at heart who loves festivals in small doses, bowling, beach days, movies, restaurants, and wineries. Also into writing and ***ting. Bisexual; with women I’m affectionate and tactile—softness, kissing, cuddling. I tend to be more giving, and appreciate reciprocity. Kink: definite masochist. Impact and wax are favorites for the release and the pretty marks. Also into restraints, light electro, blindfolds, and clamps. Curious switchiness with women; I’m learning to top under his mentorship. In the lifestyle since 18. What started as kink curiosity has grown into a deeper, mental/structure-focused submission. With my current Dom, I’m in the most aligned dynamic I’ve had. What we’re looking for A true submissive who shows consistency, effort, and respect for protocol. Open to a couple-led dynamic; chemistry and compatibility come first. Live-in is a possibility if everything aligns over time. You know what you want, you communicate it, and you follow house rules once agreed. Our approach and experience Consent, safety, and aftercare are non-negotiable. Safewords honored, boundaries respected. Skilled in training/mentorship, structure, and building sustainable dynamics. We enjoy D/s with elements of bondage, impact, sensation, and role play—negotiated and tailored to the partner. Boundaries and limits No face striking. No bodily fluids. Full stop. Everything is pre-negotiated with safewords and shared limits. Our limits will align with yours; we don’t “push” past negotiated boundaries. Communication If we reach out, a brief reply (even if it’s a “no, thank you”) is appreciated. We’re here with intention—clear communication and punctuality go a long way.